Comments on: Warning: Bad Day

By: Carole

Carole — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 15:17:23 +0000

I have no useful advice, but it looks like you’ve gotten plenty of that here. I just wanted to add some hugs….

By: Ashley Hast

Ashley Hast — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 18:38:26 +0000

Cancer sucks balls, and just pisses me off to know end. Please know I think of you every time I look at my bracelet (or when I bang my arm against something, lol). You are in my prayers, happy thoughts, and all that good stuff. Ashley Hasts last blog post..We're having another....brat!

By: defendUSA

defendUSA — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 17:13:53 +0000

Lisa- Just remember that Government paperwork is utterly fucking frustrating and that these people don’t often use their own judgement to get things done. Patsy is correct…get all your ducks in a row and you’ll be fine.
As the Navy SEALs in training say- The only easy day was yesterday. (In my formerly Army trained mind, when shit sucks I like to say this to myself- Readily will I display the intestinal fortitude required to fight on the (life) objective and complete the mission, though I be the lone survivor.

Sometimes in my day, I feel the “lone” can get to me. We all do what we have to and I’m with ya on catching the breaks. THis will make you feel like laughing… So, we’re trying to sell a house, got four kids, and the hub was unemployed for 15 months. We stay afloat, he gets a job. Spends our retirement to live in Shitcago, and then rents a place we can’t afford since we had a mortgage already ( he missed the kids, school was starting, no common sense)He doesn’t tell me that we needed an extra 100k so he can BE a partner!! The firm he works for has now sent him an email and said if he can’t get the loan by 20Oct., he’s fired!! How’s that? Ya laughing yet? To top it all off, with our 90k in credit debt from a business gone bad(he got screwed)…we just got a notice of some credit fraud!!!

Sigh. Take a deep breath and know it is going to get better! It HAS to at some point!! Listen to some Jack Johnson…Better Together….

By: Kate

Kate — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 12:23:31 +0000

It’s truly nobody’s business if you work, or why you don’t work…
And if they make it their business – fuck them.

Just want you to know I’m thinking about you.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:38:27 +0000

Sorry for the double post.

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 10:35:34 +0000

Lisa, Hopefully whomever you are working with knows this, but so long as your application is labeled “TERI” (TERM-inal I-llness), SSDI is legally mandated to expedite the review of your claim. My sister-in-law, who has Stage IV breast cancer, had her first check in hand in less than 8 weeks. The trick is to actually use the work “terminal,” NOT “incurable” or any other euphemism. And it’s not enough to simply say you are dying or that you could die before they issue a decision. I suspect they hear things like that from people everyday, true or not. It also helps if you look as bad as you feel when you make the application. Don’t worry about what others think. No one in their right mind thinks that you should be working.

By: Faiqa

Faiqa — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 06:15:41 +0000

Hey Lisa, I read the comment you posted over at my place, and I hope you have time to read my response. I haven’t been reading your blog as regularly as I want — but you have my attention again. I hope you have a better day tomorrow and wanted to thank you for your honesty about what you’re going through. Your forthrightness represents an ideal that truly inspires me.

By: annie

annie — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 05:41:00 +0000

It looks like some people here have already given some great advice. I would say one of the most importanat things besides all your documentation is what the doctor says specifically. The SSDI workers don't want or I think sometimes don't have the knowledge to wade through all that paper work, the doctors statement is very important. Also the personal forms you and your husband fill out. Don't be embarrassed by the personal questions and try to seem more capable. Some of the questions seem stupid, but if you can't brush your teeth and put on your shoes some days , SAY SO. Don't think to yourself, "Well, I could if I really wanted to so I should answer yes." It sure sounds to me like some days you are feeling really bad and really just can't, so don't be afraid to admit it. annies last blog post..You Wanna See Cute?

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 05:05:28 +0000

No advice on the SSDI ~ I've been denied twice so far ~ but I think it's great that you've got an advocate to help you. Huge {{{hugs}}} and so many prayers going up for you ~ I hope tomorrow is a better day. Kims last blog post..Blog Challenge Sunday: Public Scrutiny

By: Karl

Karl — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 04:05:41 +0000

Aw, cripes, hon. I've been away from blogland for far too long. I owe you a phone call. Just been caught up in my own little world. Definitely find a good advocate for the SS thing. I pray it goes well. Love you. Karls last blog post..The Rest of My Birthday Presents