Hospice

by Lisa on January 13, 2009

in Uncategorized

I’m writing this from my phone as I am waiting for a hospital bed to be delivered. It’s part of my hospice care.

After chemo last week and the breakdown it suffered it’s time to stop treatment and spend time with my family. I had blood clots in my neck.

So now I’ve come home to die. I hope you can understand my decision to stop treatment but treatment is killing me.

I just want to be comfortable and surrounded by love.

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1 Kizz 01.13.09 at 6:35 pm

You are surrounded by love. Wish we could give you more.

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2 Robin 01.13.09 at 6:38 pm

Lisa,
Please know that my thoughts are with you. I pray for you daily and still for a cure for CANCER.

I hope that you are at peace and pain free.

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3 Susan 01.13.09 at 6:39 pm

May peace and love be with you. I am with you in spirit and wishing you an easy transition.

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4 Katy 01.13.09 at 6:40 pm

You’re in my prayers. I’m still hoping for that miracle. You’re surrounded by more love than you may know.

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5 Tug 01.13.09 at 6:41 pm

Much love, many ((hugs)) and PRAYING FOR A MIRACLE. still.

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6 Ms. Changes Pants While Driving 01.13.09 at 6:43 pm

your commenters have taken the words out of my mouth. i wish you comfort and peace. and you have love.

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7 usedtobeme 01.13.09 at 6:44 pm

Oh honey. I wish I could be there to hold your hand. I’m sorry it has come to this but I wish you peace and love. Give the girls and dude a big hug for me and tell them you are all loved by the masses world wide! My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. xoxo Me.

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8 That Bitchy Chick 01.13.09 at 6:48 pm

There are no words that I could say that haven’t already been said, so I will just say that you’re in my prayers. I believe in miracles and still have hope that your’s is still out there for you! Much love!!

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9 Catherine 01.13.09 at 6:50 pm

My thoughts are with you at this time

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10 Dana 01.13.09 at 6:50 pm

Oh, I have tears in my eyes as I write this.

Honey, you are doing what is best for you and that is ALL anyone should ever expect from you. You fought a very valiant battle and you will never be forgotten. I hope your days are filled with all the love and snuggles you can get.

Maybe they will have Lindy’s cheesecake in Heaven. :)

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11 Sodapop 01.13.09 at 6:52 pm

I love you, Lisa. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God grant you the serenity and courage to find the peace you seek.

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12 Heidi 01.13.09 at 6:52 pm

I’m so sorry. I’ve been following your blog for some time now. I wish you a pain free, hmmm…I can’t even type it. I’m so sorry for you, your husband, and your daughters. Be sure to tell them how much you love them…I hope they tell you!

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13 Monique 01.13.09 at 6:53 pm

My prayer is that your time with your family is peaceful and pain-free. May you all be surrounded by God’s love.

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14 Sarah @ Ordinary Days 01.13.09 at 6:53 pm

I’ve read your blog for awhile now but I think this is my first time to comment.

I don’t know what to say but I want you to know that I am praying for you right now. I pray for your comfort and your family.

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15 Christine 01.13.09 at 6:54 pm

Lisa,
We have never met face to face, but, I still care so much about you, and what you and your family are going through. It isn’t fair, this cancer. And, I want you to know, that I wore both the bracelets I bought from you, on New Years, and will start wearing them everyday, to remember how important it is to find a cure for cancer, and to remind me of how special my time is with my family. I pray that you find peace, and that your family is blanketed in love, and can wonderful memories, to look back onto. I pray that your girls have courage, and strength and joy, and love and peace in their lives. I also, hope for the same for Dude.
So, if your life hasn’t been as long as you planned, I want you to know that you made a difference, not only to your wonderful family, and friends, but, also, to all of us out here in the bloggy world, who have prayed for you, cried with you, and crossed our fingers for you. You have raised awareness, you have educated us, and you have entertained us.
I could say, that I am still praying for a miracle, and of course I am, not only for you, but, for every cancer patient in the world, but, I am thinking that, right now, the Lisa I have come to know, wants us to be honest with you. And, I am accepting of your decision. I am not happy that it is one that you had to make, AT ALL.. and devastated that you had to make this one last final decision. I was so hoping that it would never come down to this.
I will be praying for you, and your soul, and your family. I lost my mom to cancer, and I wasn’t as young as your girls (heck I was 29), but, it is something that I don’t want any child to go through, be it 8 or 80…(for the child).
Now, where is that taxi driver, from NY at?
Does he have that happy stuff for you?????
You have all my love, and prayers, each and every day of your journey…

Christines last blog post..Happy New Year! Conflicts, still arise…but, it is better…

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16 Laci 01.13.09 at 6:56 pm

Lisa, you are definitely surrounded by love. You, Dude, Teenie and Cam are all in my thoughts and prayers.

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17 Giggle Pixie 01.13.09 at 7:07 pm

Wishing you and your family strength, hope, and peace. You are more surrounded by love than you can imagine. You’ll be in my prayers.

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18 alan7933 01.13.09 at 7:09 pm

Lisa I have been reading your blog for a long time and have shared an email message with you. I’m not someone who prays but you and your family are in my thoughts. I have your Clusterfook key chain with my car key and it keeps you in my thoughts. I’m a cancer survivor (prostate) and hope for cures for all of the cancers of the world.

My love to you.

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19 Karen Sugarpants 01.13.09 at 7:12 pm

I wish I could be there for you. Much love to you and your family. All the love I can muster…xoxoxo

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20 bluepaintred 01.13.09 at 7:13 pm

Oh Lisa, this is heartbreaking, but you are right to choose comfortable and loved.
I hope you can feel the love we are trying to pour through the interwebs to you.

Hugs

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21 Lynn (Walking With Scissors) 01.13.09 at 7:14 pm

I’m so very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers. (((((hugs)))))

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22 JessicaAPISS 01.13.09 at 7:15 pm

Sending you sincere prayers for you and your family.

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23 Loralee 01.13.09 at 7:16 pm

I hope for nothing but peace and love to surround you and your family and friends (and those who love you on the internet) during this time.

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24 Suebob 01.13.09 at 7:19 pm

“What is remembered, lives.” And you will never be forgotten.

Hugs.

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25 Lo 01.13.09 at 7:19 pm

I have no words-just tears and chills.
You are brave, you are compassionate, you are a class act. Continue to follow your heart and share love………

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26 LeSombre 01.13.09 at 7:20 pm

Damn.

Hugs.

Sad.

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27 Tasses 01.13.09 at 7:20 pm

I may not de-lurk very often, but want you to know that I think of you & your family everyday.

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28 Black Belt Mama 01.13.09 at 7:22 pm

Aw Lisa, this was not the post I wanted to read. I am thinking of you and praying for time for you and your family. If there is anything at all I can do, please let me know.

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29 EDW 01.13.09 at 7:22 pm

Oh, Lisa. Be with your family, be surrounded by their love and al of ours. xoxo

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30 Matthew 01.13.09 at 7:24 pm

Sending warm thoughts. May you find peace in your decision. Enjoy your time with loved ones. God Bless you.

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31 Valerie 01.13.09 at 7:24 pm

Sending you love and prayers.

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32 Blondefabulous 01.13.09 at 7:25 pm

I have been such a fucking coward these last few weeks, not coming by, afraid to read your blog….. yet here you are. Beautiful, amazing, stronger than I could EVER hope to be. I am praying for you, and thinking of you, and hoping against all hope that the powers that be will hear my pleas.

I love you and wish only good for you! Suebob has it right…. What is remembered… lives!

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33 Shash 01.13.09 at 7:27 pm

Lisa, I took care of my mom with Hospice care, and I know you will be well cared for. Being home was exactly what both of us needed. I wish you love and peace with your family. You are an inspiration to many, including me.

Love you.

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34 Dave2 01.13.09 at 7:27 pm

Whatever you want is what I want for you… your heart knows where it should be. Always.

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35 Connie Dees 01.13.09 at 7:30 pm

Oh honey, so sorry. Wishing you peace.

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36 Lori 01.13.09 at 7:31 pm

Lisa, you are one of the bravest people ever. I wish you love, peace and comfort. You, Dude and the girls are in my thoughts and prayers. The world has been blessed by your very presence.

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37 Ginger 01.13.09 at 7:31 pm

I’m so sorry. I don’t really know what to say…except…I’m so sorry.

May the peace of God (or whatever force you draw strength from) that surpasses all understanding surround your heart and mind through this time.

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38 Louise 01.13.09 at 7:32 pm

I lurk, I never comment… I wanted to say thank you for sharing all that you do here, and I’m sorry that this is happening. You’re absolutely right to choose comfort and being with your family at this time.

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39 Nicole 01.13.09 at 7:33 pm

Hello Lisa:
You don’t know me, but we have a mutual friend, Karen Sugarpants.

May you embrace every moment with your family and the friends that smoother with love and care. Seems like you have been a strong fighter, and only wish you many more moments of the same strength.

May guardian angels watch over you and watch over your family as you all deal with the unfortunate illness.

May God Bless you all.

Nicole

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40 Robin 01.13.09 at 7:34 pm

Lisa – I think about you every day and pray for you and your family. You are such an inspiration to me…you don’t even know.

Blessings for you and your family.

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41 annie 01.13.09 at 7:35 pm

I love you.

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42 Sarcastica 01.13.09 at 7:36 pm

I wish I could offer words of advice, or something that would make you feel a lot better…but I can’t. All I can say is that is I am praying for a miracle; and I know that you will be surrounded by love.

You are an amazing person Lisa. I’m thinking of you and your family.

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43 MamaMay 01.13.09 at 7:39 pm

I know I haven’t written much, but I have been reading every post of yours for several months now and want you to know I care.

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44 geek 01.13.09 at 7:44 pm

Tense and I love you.

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45 sam {temptingmama} 01.13.09 at 7:46 pm

You are surrounded by love. Forever and for always.

May you be comfortable and enjoy your time with your family.

xoxoxox

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46 Tense Teacher 01.13.09 at 7:48 pm

You, Dude and the baby girls are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love you.

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47 Summer 01.13.09 at 7:49 pm

I respect your dicision and wish you loving times with your family and a peaceful journey.

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48 hello haha narf 01.13.09 at 7:53 pm

oh dear, dear lisa. i’m here with tears streaming down my face and not a fucking clue what to say. part of me wants to scream and curse, part of me wants to curl in a ball and sob, yet all of me knows it is nothing compared to what you and your family are going through. i hate this for all of you.

you have been nothing but a shining example of how to accept and fight at the same time. part of what hurts so much is that i really don’t think you know the impact you have had on so many people. i can only imagine how scared yet proud your daughters must be. you are a wonderful mom.

i wish you love and no pain and rest and laughter and peace.

with so much love,

becky

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49 Mrs. F 01.13.09 at 7:54 pm

May god bless you and surround you with all the love and peace that you could ever need.

Thank you for sharing your life with us.

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50 suze 01.13.09 at 7:55 pm

You are in my thoughts. May love and peace surround you.

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51 Sandi 01.13.09 at 7:56 pm

Bless you Lisa, for your love, tremendous strength and wonderful writing.
You are a wonderful woman and you are loved.

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52 Fantastagirl 01.13.09 at 7:57 pm

May you find peace, and sending you many many hugs… I think you know what to do is best for you and your family at this time.

Praying for a miracle… You are an inspiration to so many, and to quote a friend who recently passed from pancreatic cancer – “You don’t have to walk up to heaven, God comes down to get you.”

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53 Chatty 01.13.09 at 7:57 pm

You know me, I am never at a loss of what to say…til now. You are all in my thoughts.

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54 Lala 01.13.09 at 7:58 pm

I love you Lisa, I will hold my daughter closer tonight because of you. I will go easier on myself tonight because of you. When I get up in the middle of the night to take care of my baby son I will hold him closer and think of you and your family. Thank you for touching my world…..

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55 Qui Gon-Jinn 01.13.09 at 7:58 pm

You posses the strength that no words can express.

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56 Miss Ann Thrope 01.13.09 at 8:03 pm

Lisa, you know what’s good for you. Take as good care as possible. We’re all thinking of you. xxxooo

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57 Avitable 01.13.09 at 8:06 pm

Love you. There are no words.

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58 Velma 01.13.09 at 8:07 pm

I understand. I hate it, but I understand, and I hope you and your family find comfort with the hospice situation. I’m not much of one for praying, but I’m sending all the positive energy I have to you and DUDE and especially your girls. God bless.

Velmas last blog post..Another Day, Another Disgusting Mouthing Episode.

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59 Baroness von Bloggenschtern 01.13.09 at 8:21 pm

All that you’ve been through, all that you’ve taken the time to share with us – your life is truly a blessing.

Wherever you find yourself, know that you have affected many people and have brought out the best in all of us.

I wish you peace and love and comfort, dear woman. You are amazing.

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60 Hilly 01.13.09 at 8:24 pm

Lisa, you are amazing and you know what? You”ve fought and fought and if this is what you need? This is what you need.

My love is with you. My prayers are with you and your family. if I could be there to hold your hand and make you giggle, just a little, I certainly would.

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61 Lynda 01.13.09 at 8:28 pm

I have followed along as best I could. Your story brings up so many feelings about my sister. I feel really bad you have to go through all this. I hope you cherish the time with your family and I am sure you are making the decisions that are best for you.

Part of me is still going to hope for that miracle though.

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62 melanie 01.13.09 at 8:29 pm

I am truly sorry. I will pray for a miracle and for you and your family.

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63 Southern Sage 01.13.09 at 8:30 pm

I have no words at all.
Hugs.

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64 Erika Jurney 01.13.09 at 8:31 pm

I’m thinking about you and your family, Lisa.

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65 derfina 01.13.09 at 8:40 pm

LOVE to you and your family, Lisa. I pray that your passing will be pain free and peaceful, and that your family will be able to celebrate your life, because you are truly an inspiration. *smooches*

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66 The Other Dawn 01.13.09 at 8:40 pm

We’re walking with you as far as we can. We’ll be waving when you’re going farther than we can follow.

Thank you for everything, and love to your family.

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67 Jester 01.13.09 at 8:47 pm

I hope you and your family are able to at long last find some peace.

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68 Mrs RW 01.13.09 at 8:47 pm

Lisa,

Thank you so much for sharing this journey with us.

I know I will have several friends waiting for me when my time comes, but I have one request, girlfriend to girlfriend:

Can you save me a good spot in heaven? You know, the one next to the Nordstrom’s shoe department, near the book corner and right in between the chocolate section?? I know you’ll be somewhere near there.

God bless you, Lisa. Peace be with you, your family and your friends. You’ve leaving us with something extraordinarily special. You.

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69 elismsue 01.13.09 at 8:49 pm

Lisa,

I have checked for an update every day since the last one. In not finding any, I feared that the decision you have made was coming. With love, cyber hugs, positive cyber thoughts for all and just plain acceptance of your decision, I hope you, the girls and Dude spend this time remembering the good.

Sue

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70 Becky 01.13.09 at 8:51 pm

You have touched more lives than you know. You have provided such an inspiration to myself and others. I’m still praying that the miracle cure is found.

May the love of your family and friends help guide you and make you comfortable.

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71 angie 01.13.09 at 8:52 pm

Sending love. Thank you for sharing your life with us all. Bless you and your family.

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72 Laura 01.13.09 at 8:55 pm

Lisa-I just want to say that I am blessed to have found you, and been part of your world the last few months. You are truly the strongest person I know and I hope that this next stage of your life is one filled with love, laughter and all the people and things that make you happiest. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and I will join the others in hoping for a miracle.

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73 thordora 01.13.09 at 8:55 pm

I wish you peace, and no pain, and thousands more minutes in the arms of those who love you.

Let go when you must. You have been, and are loved.

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74 Gayle 01.13.09 at 9:20 pm

Lisa, yours is one of the first blogs I ever read, back in the Rock Bitch days. I loved your grit then, and have marveled at your strength ever since. In this last round, I’ve seen you grow and become “more” as your struggle has progressed. More strong, more centered, more loving — just MORE. You’ve been such an inspiration to me, and to us all.

I love you, and wish you the peace that comes from knowing you did all you possibly could. You’ve shown us how to fight the good fight until it makes no sense to fight any more, and now it’s time to rest and just be loved by the ones who love you. I promise I will never, ever forget your example!

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75 Heather 01.13.09 at 9:28 pm

You are loved. Thank you for all that you have given and shared. Wishing you peace and comfort.

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76 Gail 01.13.09 at 9:29 pm

Love.

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77 Frankie 01.13.09 at 9:51 pm

I wish i had words to describe what I want to say but they wont come.

Thank you for being YOU. :) One huge over the net HUG sent your way.

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78 misspudding 01.13.09 at 9:51 pm

Came here via Thordora’s site. I wish you comfort.

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79 tulip 01.13.09 at 9:55 pm

Lisa,
I’m new here and have never commented before, but I had to say that I can feel the love here and I hope you can feel it there.
May you and your family have peace in your decision.

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80 Kate 01.13.09 at 10:00 pm

Dear Lisa;

God will lead you on your journey. Peace and love, everlasting.

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81 catnip 01.13.09 at 10:00 pm

You are surrounded by love, and understanding. Thank you for sharing so much of this journey with us. xoxo

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82 that guy 01.13.09 at 10:05 pm

I would just like to thank you, a year ago when I was at a low point in my life, I looked out to a lot of different bloggers for inspiration, a reason to vent some of the crap running through my head. Your blog was one of the reasons I started blogging, I wish you the best and most of all… FUCK CANCER.

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83 diz 01.13.09 at 10:13 pm

Oh, Lisa. Thank you for sharing yourself with us all. You are such a fighter. I wish you peace and love. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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84 Rachel 01.13.09 at 10:17 pm

My thoughts are with you. I wish I could do something to make the pain easier.

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85 AmyD 01.13.09 at 10:24 pm

From my family to yours, our thoughts, prayers, and love are with you.

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86 Sarah 01.13.09 at 10:30 pm

Oh hun. You are surrounded by lots of love from everyone. You and your wonderful family and so well loved.

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87 jane 01.13.09 at 10:35 pm

You are an inspiration; it takes tremendous strength to listen to your soul & stop chemo. I’ll light a candle for you, hoping you aren’t in pain & your transition is peaceful.

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88 ocb 01.13.09 at 10:36 pm

I love you.

Thank you for you. You are forever in my heart.

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89 Fogspinner 01.13.09 at 10:44 pm

Sending as much love and support as one girl can muster.

Be peaceful my friend and know you are a very loved woman.

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90 Maggie 01.13.09 at 10:56 pm

Lisa,

I’ve enjoyed your blog for over a year and prayed for you each step of your journey. Just know what a wonderful example you have been for so many women and mothers, including myself. As so many other commenters have said, you are so very loved. I hope the rest of your days are peaceful and filled with that love.

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91 Nina 01.13.09 at 11:01 pm

Love to you, Dude, and the girls. My prayers are with you.

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92 Colleen 01.13.09 at 11:01 pm

Lisa,

You continue to be in my prayers. I know you are surrounded by love and the goodness of your family. Bless you and yours.

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93 Krystle 01.13.09 at 11:02 pm

Lisa and Family…

The decision you made was one some would have probably a long time ago. You fought a good fight, you stood your ground and didn’t let the cancer rule your life until the very very time you no longer could take it. You are an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your life with us all, you are so loved and so thought of. I have my keychain of yours with me everyday…there is not a minute I don’t look at it and not think of you.

God Bless you, Dude and the girls… I hope they know how special of a wife and mother they have.

Wishing you peace, happiness, and joy on this next journey in your life.

You made a difference in us Lisa. You changed many, and you will never be forgotten. Ever.

With never ending faith, hope and love…
Thank you Lisa, Thank you.

God Bless,
Krystle

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94 Poppy 01.13.09 at 11:08 pm

Extra hugs from me and mine to you and yours. I think you have done a great thing, choosing to be with those most important to you. Brave. *sniffle* <3

Poppys last blog post..I really thought I gained 10 lbs this weekend.

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95 NYCWD 01.13.09 at 11:11 pm

I understand.

While there are no words that can take away this pain, know that you are in the thoughts, prayers, and hearts of many who wish nothing for you but peace of mind, body, and soul.

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96 Cindy 01.13.09 at 11:16 pm

“Let children walk with Nature, let them see the beautiful blendings and communions of death and life, their joyous inseparable unity, as taught in woods and meadows, plains and mountains and streams of our blessed star, and they will learn that death is stingless indeed, and as beautiful as life.” ~John Muir

May God give you sweet slumber.

Thank you for all that you’ve shared.

I am without words tonight.

Carry on…carry on.

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97 Mooselet 01.13.09 at 11:26 pm

What do I say to a woman whom I have never met but has touched me so that I am crying? I say thank you for sharing yourself with us, and for letting me into this small section of your life. I will not forget my time here, and so a part of you will continue to live on. I hope what time you have left is as pain-free as possible and I have no doubt you will be surrounded by love as you have always been.

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98 Herbie 01.13.09 at 11:32 pm

Lisa,

I’ve been reading your blog over the past few months, without leaving comment.

You are one of the bravest women I have ever come across. Cherish the time with your family, and God Bless.

Herbies last blog post..Fun at the Chinese Buffet.

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99 foo 01.13.09 at 11:40 pm

May the love that surrounds blanket you and your family with comfort and peace. You have an amazing spirit and continue to touch the lives of so many.

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100 Britta 01.13.09 at 11:45 pm

Thank you for sharing your story Lisa. Prayers and love for you and your family.

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101 Kim 01.13.09 at 11:46 pm

No words seem adequate, so I’ll just say this:

Thank you for sharing a small part of yourself with us, and thank you for shining so bright.

All the love and peace I have to offer is yours ~

Thinking of you daily, and praying for comfort for you, peace for your family, and that you know how much your bloggy buddies love you and are thinking of you.

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102 bypond24642 01.13.09 at 11:46 pm

Hi- I don’t know you, I saw a mention of your cancer on my son’s blog. I am sorry- you and your family have all my prayers. God be with you.

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103 Cyndy 01.13.09 at 11:48 pm

Look at all these comments,and how very loved you are. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I wish you peace, and freedom from pain and your family comfort.

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104 Karen (miscmum) 01.13.09 at 11:55 pm

Thinking of you and your family x

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105 Carrie 01.13.09 at 11:56 pm

Lisa, “Queen of Spain” send me over. I was so lucky to spend time with my dad who also chose to not pursue further treatment and was blessed with the opportunity to be in hospice care and surrounded and supported by people who loved him. What’s special about you is that you have inspired others (and obviously not just me) – complete strangers – to say hello and goodbye and I love you. May you not only be without pain, may you be at peace. Carrie

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106 celeste 01.13.09 at 11:57 pm

My friend, Jason Shinder, wrote this poem:

CODA

And now I know what most deeply connects us

after that summer so many years ago,
and it isn’t poetry, although it is poetry,

and it isn’t illness, although we have that in common,

and it isn’t gratitude for every moment,
even the terrifying ones, even the physical pain,

though we are grateful, and it isn’t even death,

though we are halfway through
it, or even the way you describe the magnificence

of being alive, catching a glimpse,

in the store window, of your blowing hair and chapped lips,
though it is beautiful, it is; but it is

that you’re my friend out here on the far reaches

of what humans can find out about each other.

—Jason Shinder

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107 lildb 01.13.09 at 11:58 pm

came bc of Erin (Q of S). praying for your miracle. whatever happens, my thoughts are with you and your family. and all the strength i have to offer.

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108 Maggie P. 01.14.09 at 12:01 am

OH Lisa. I’m so so sorry. My heart is aching for you, your precious girls and husband. I wished with all my heart that it wouldn’t have come to this. :-( Just know that I think about you and your family daily. May your time with your family provide memories that last a lifetime.

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109 Anonymous 01.14.09 at 12:05 am

This isn’t the end; just the beginning of another journey. I wish you and your family much peace and love.

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110 whall 01.14.09 at 12:12 am

Crap. I don’t even hardly know you yet other than your crazy avatar and some comments here and there.

I’d make the same decision methinks.

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111 Turnbaby 01.14.09 at 12:13 am

You have given your family an amazing gift–time and love. They will always have that and they will always have you.

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112 Rosy V 01.14.09 at 12:14 am

I so admire your strenghten! Prayers to you and your family.

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113 Jamie 01.14.09 at 12:17 am

Lisa,

My heart aches for you, Dude and your girls. My husband has been on hospice for a month now, and I will tell you that its probably been the healthiest decision we’ve made.

Please email me, or you can have Dude email me if you have any questions.

Peace-
jamie

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114 cajunvegan 01.14.09 at 12:23 am

Peace be with you and yours.

You are loved.

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115 Sprite 01.14.09 at 12:32 am

My heart and my prayers are with you while you find peace and a special time of love with your family.

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116 DutchBitch 01.14.09 at 12:35 am

Spend time with your family, Lisa. Only thing we can hope and pray for is that you are comfortable and surrounded with love in this time. Thinking of you.

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117 Memphis Steve 01.14.09 at 12:37 am

Sometimes the treatment is worse than the disease. And I suppose there must come a point when the time you lose in chemo, or recovering from chemo, when you’d really rather be with people you love, I guess in many ways that becomes more precious than anything else.

Blood clots in the neck, that’s very serious. But I guess you knew that already.

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118 Lizzle 01.14.09 at 12:44 am

While I normally lurk, I want to echo the comments above and send you some more peace for you and your family.

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119 jenny 01.14.09 at 12:46 am

Wishing you peace and calm and precious time with your family.

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120 PandoraWilde 01.14.09 at 2:20 am

I’ve always said people know when it’s “time”. You’re a people and you know it’s time.

I just wanted to thank you for reminding me when I am most depressed that I am a selfish, snotty bitch because no matter how much pain I’m in, I’m not due to make the decision you just made for a very long time and I have no right being a whining crotchface when someone else I care about has it a whole lot worse.

I needed that reminder, and I love you for giving it when I wasn’t able to give back. Big hugs and loads of love–including a great big fat grey-white kitty who wants to send a little too. But I told her she couldn’t send fur so she told me to send a face rub with my own love. I’ll never hear Traffic’s “Low Spark of High Heeled Boys” again without thinking of you.

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121 Chris 01.14.09 at 2:30 am

Be with the ones you love and what will be will be. Peace.

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122 Kylie w Warszawie 01.14.09 at 5:18 am

I came here from Write On, Yo and I just wanted to say that my prayers are with you and your family. You are courageous to make this decision.

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123 MaryLeigh 01.14.09 at 6:12 am

I’m so glad to hear that hospice care has entered your life, because it means less pain for you and more time with your family. Don’t necessarily think that hospice is just the end..a lot of people do leave hospice because of how dramatically they improve. Just seize this time for pain free days (or at the least, pain won’t rule your life AS much as before) and rock out with your girls and Dude. I am so proud of your fearlessness and wish only the best for you. Also please look into the family counseling that hospice offers because it will help them understand more of what you’re going through as well as nourish your own soul. I used to work for hospice in Dallas and cannot tell you what a blessing it is. All of my best wishes and prayers are headed your way, Lisa!

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124 Mattie 01.14.09 at 6:19 am

You have touched the heart and souls of so many people in your life. Myself included.

You fought a difficult battle with dignity and perseverance. You stood and faced the demon Cancer with all your might.

Now it’s time to find everlasting peace and wrap yourself in a blanket of love woven by the words of all those you have written how much they love and admire you and of your family as well.

You will always be in my heart. Always.

Peace. Love. And a gazillion virtual hugs.

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125 Dawn 01.14.09 at 6:28 am

I don’t know what to say. I have no words. Please just know that you’re in my thoughts.

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126 Vic 01.14.09 at 6:47 am

Sugar, sending you all the comfort, love and hugs I can. We all there’s not a lot I can say. x

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127 Scala 01.14.09 at 7:48 am

Enjoy every moment you get to share with your girls and Dude. Talk, laugh, cry with your family; and continue to surround yourself with love and comfort.

Get and give lots of hugs and kisses.

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128 noraisins 01.14.09 at 7:52 am

You go and enjoy every moment with your family. I know you don’t know me, but if you need anything please do not hesitate to ask. I only live a couple hours away. If you need someone to cook a few meals, run a few errands, clean, do laundry – anything to make it easier for you to spend time with those you love.

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129 ~jtm 01.14.09 at 8:07 am

Nothing Gold Can Stay

Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.

Robert Frost (1875-1963)

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130 Sometimes Saintly 01.14.09 at 8:13 am

Lisa, you remain in my thoughts and prayers.

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131 DesignHER Momma 01.14.09 at 8:23 am

peace to you my friend. love on those around you, let them love on you back.

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132 Jennybean 01.14.09 at 8:31 am

I understand your decision and wish you peace and happiness, and comfort and understanding for those around you.

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133 shiny 01.14.09 at 8:38 am

Much love and much hugs.

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134 Yvonne 01.14.09 at 8:51 am

My heart is heavy for you.
Take in EVERY.SINGLE.MOMENT.
Much strength and love to your girls and DUDE.
You all are an awesome bunch!

GOD Bless You.

XO

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135 Jen 01.14.09 at 9:16 am

Delurking as I have ‘checked in’ a lot this past week and was worried…..

May you have nothing put days surrounded with love and laughter ahead of you. Sending you, Dude, Teenie and Cam love and peace.

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136 Tracy 01.14.09 at 9:18 am

Thank you for sharing this journey with us. You are a courageous, special woman and you have touched us all. Sending prayers, love and peace to you and your family.

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137 Jamie 01.14.09 at 9:19 am

Sending you and your family blessings, love, strength, and peace.

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138 Musing 01.14.09 at 9:24 am

My heart is with you and your family. Sending much love your way.

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139 dee 01.14.09 at 9:36 am

I’m a stranger on the ‘net but want to send you many positive vibes and much peace.

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140 Anita Ovolina 01.14.09 at 9:49 am

Lisa,
much love your way. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs,
Anita

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141 Just Meee~ 01.14.09 at 9:51 am

Lisa,
I knew something was wrong, I checked a bunch of times every day!

Go in peace – and know you made a difference in many lives~

Please remember me to the LORD when you see HIM~

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142 liz 01.14.09 at 9:52 am

Peace to you and your family.

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143 defendUSA 01.14.09 at 10:01 am

Lisa,
I don’t know how hard this has been for you, I can only guess by what you have said. Here’s to you for fighting the good fight and giving the rest of us the insight into what it takes to suck it up and drive on…to be all you can be, no matter what the hell life has thrown your way.
I truly hope you are comfortable and peaceful. Can you do us all one favor? And, it won’t be easy, I know. Could you make sure that someone lets us know when you have finished your journey, because we like, love and will miss you. And I haven’t been around as much as some, but I would like to know.
Much love and friendship,
Denise

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144 Heather 01.14.09 at 10:09 am

I am certainly sending love your way from our house. I will be praying for you and your family.

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145 Kate 01.14.09 at 10:14 am

Sending you love.

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146 won 01.14.09 at 10:15 am

Dear Lisa,

I stumbled across your blog just the other day and began reading. I don’t believe in coincidences, and after this post, realize why I am here.

I will never claim to know your pain. Even if I were on hospice care myself, I would not know. Yours is yours alone.

I do know I had to sign on the line for hospice not too long ago. The care was not for me. It was for my eleven year daughter whose cancer was in her brain. She would tell me at the end of her journey “Mommy, it will be okay. Just breathe in the light, and blow out the darkness.”

What I do know about Lisa is pain, fear and anger. My heart is with you. I have put a URL from something my precious girl wrote just a couple months before her transistion. It exemplifies her attitude, and my hope is that some day when it feels darker than others you will draw on Olivia’s words of strength. There are also more photos of her on my webpage.

I will continue to check in with you, and to keep your children in my prayers. Godspeed…
http://s7.photobucket.com/albums/y270/oliviasmother/?action=view&current=ibelieveinmyselfbyolivia.jpg

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147 Finn 01.14.09 at 10:21 am

Lisa –

While I am sad to see you go, I am content that you’ve made or are making your peace with it. I’m still praying for you and your family — for strength, for comfort and for love.

I feel blessed to have made your acquiantance even if I never had the privilege of hearing your voice or touching you. Thank you for helping me to find my gratitude when I didn’t want to and for showing me that I can always find my strength when I need.

Go with love my friend. xo

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148 Angie 01.14.09 at 10:41 am

You changed the way I look at cancer, you touched my heart and the hearts of others. Lisa, you made a big difference.
All my love, my prayers and my thoughts are with you and your family.
Love, Angie

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149 Amy 01.14.09 at 10:44 am

I’m here via NYCWD…I’ve never read your site but I feel compelled to let you know you are in many people’s thought and prayers. May God bless you and your family.

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150 Ashley Hast 01.14.09 at 10:46 am

I could never even grasp a single second of what you must be going through, but know that you, Dude, and your girls, are in my every prayer. I pray for nothing but God’s absolute and perfect peace to fill and surround you wholly.

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151 Moxie 01.14.09 at 11:00 am

My heart breaks reading this, but it sounds like the best possible thing for your family. My prayers are with you and your family.

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152 Jen 01.14.09 at 11:12 am

Lisa, you’ve fought the good fight. You’ve earned your rest. I’m wishing you and your family comfort, warmth, peace and love.

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153 Sheila (Charm School Reject) 01.14.09 at 11:15 am

I wish I had something that I could say but I don’t. Instead I will say that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

xoxo

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154 perpstu 01.14.09 at 11:24 am

You are surrounded by love and prayers all throughout the internet. I wish I had wiser words, but I don’t and it’s too hard to type with tears in my eyes. I wish you well and I hope the rest of your time with your family is pain free and wonderful.

XOXOXO

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155 Shelly 01.14.09 at 11:28 am

Lisa, I am so sorry. I don’t understand why such horrible things happen to good people. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I can not begin to imagine what you are going through right now. Stay strong. Soak up the time with your babies and peace be with you.

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156 Mary 01.14.09 at 11:32 am

Lisa, you are surrounded by more love than you’ll probably ever know! You have given those of us out here on the web a great gift. Keep staying strong – you are an inspiration.

Much love, prayers and good thoughts to you and your family.

Mary – in Oregon

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157 Giggle Pixie 01.14.09 at 11:43 am

De-lurking once again to add something I didn’t say before. Thank you for sharing your life and your story and YOU with all of us (even those of us who rarely commented) and being an inspiration.

You are definitely loved, and I continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.

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158 Sarah Crisman 01.14.09 at 11:52 am

Our love, thoughts, and prayers are with you and your loved ones.

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159 Laura 01.14.09 at 12:05 pm

God bless you and keep you, Lisa.

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160 justmylife 01.14.09 at 12:09 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Thank you for sharing your story and life with us.

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161 Lisa O 01.14.09 at 12:09 pm

Oh beautiful Lisa I cannot stop the tears – I SOO wish I could do something to help you. I really hope you are pain free and feel God’s love as well as your family (and internet family) surround you.
Many hugs and continued prayers

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162 ccinmotion 01.14.09 at 12:24 pm

lisa, having been involved with hospice on many occasions i know you will be surrounded by love and peace~~sending you love, peace and comfort~

cc in motion
former charlene in arkansas

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163 misfithausfrau 01.14.09 at 12:26 pm

Thank you for sharing your story and your struggles. You have amazed me with your spirit and strength. May you be surrounded by comfort and love.

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164 Sandi 01.14.09 at 12:48 pm

This poem gave me a great deal of solice during my Mom’s illness, I hope it does the same for you and your family.

GONE FROM MY SIGHT

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength. I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.

Then someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!”

“Gone where?”

Gone from my sight. That is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side and she is just as able to bear her load of living freight to her destined port.

Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says: “There, she is gone!” there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout: “Here she comes!”

And that is dying.

Henry Van Dyke

My thoughts are with you and your family.

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165 Lisa in So Cal 01.14.09 at 1:14 pm

Sending you and your family much love and peace, and continued prayers.

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166 dimplz 01.14.09 at 1:21 pm

I’ve never commented much, but I see that you have lots of love coming from the people who comment here, so the love you experience in person must be exponential. I pray that you have peace in your final days and that you and your family stay strong. You are an inspiration.

–Alexa

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167 Jen 01.14.09 at 1:29 pm

I’ve lurked for a little while and just wanted to thank you for sharing your life and journey with us. My sincerest wishes that you find peace.

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168 Lisa 01.14.09 at 1:29 pm

Lisa, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you peace. Much love to you and your family.

*hugs*

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169 becky 01.14.09 at 1:44 pm

I’m so sorry, Lisa. You and your family are in my thoughts. I hope you get some wonderful time with those you love. *hugs*

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170 Lydia @ On The Verge 01.14.09 at 1:48 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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171 Diane 01.14.09 at 1:50 pm

Lisa,

My thoughts are with you and your family…
Peace to you.

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172 Me 01.14.09 at 2:05 pm

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173 jess 01.14.09 at 2:51 pm

You are such an amazing woman. I wish peace and ease from pain and family for you.

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174 Stephanie 01.14.09 at 2:51 pm

Lisa, I haven’t commented here often, but I have been reading. I guess I was just too much of a chicken-shit to read sometimes, it was so heart-breaking and terrifying…yet there you stood, fighting back, pissed off, and trying to be there for your family.

Your decision, although a difficult one, is one that I truly believe will be good for Dude and the girls. I wish you peace, very little pain, and time to speak with your family, and say all the things you need to say.

I am still, however, praying for a miracle. I am always praying for a cure for cancer.

Rock on, Lisa.

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175 metalmom 01.14.09 at 3:31 pm

You have touched my life. I wish you peace and comfort.

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176 InterstellarLass 01.14.09 at 3:35 pm

Lisa,

I’m de-lurking to say hello and good-bye. I’ve stopped by from time to time to read your story. My heart goes out to Dude and your girls. You have been such a fighter, both against cancer, and for your family. We were with Hospice last June when my father-in-law passed away. They are wonderful. I hope your final journey is peaceful, and I feel that you are surrounded by love and your family.

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177 Amy 01.14.09 at 5:00 pm

Lisa,

“May the road rise up to meet you, May the wind be always at your back, May the sun shine warm upon your face, the rain fall soft upon your fields, and until we meet again may God hold you in the palm of His hand.”

I wish you and your family peace and comfort.

May you feel the love that surrounds you, and may you slip peacefully into the next world.

With love and hope,
Amy

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178 Kerri 01.14.09 at 5:43 pm

I know I will write a poem in your honor. May your journey Home be filled with peace and love.

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179 Charlotte 01.14.09 at 5:49 pm

Peace be with you. I will have you and your family in my prayers. You are an inspiration.

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180 she 01.14.09 at 6:18 pm

sending all my strength and love to you. you’re amazing. i’m glad i had the chance to “know” you.

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181 Becky 01.14.09 at 6:36 pm

Sending you love and light and all the peace in the world.

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182 Cissa Fireheart 01.14.09 at 6:46 pm

You will be missed, but you need to do what YOU need to do. I will pray that your time left with your family is nothing short of perfect, happy and filled with love.

As you may know, by all these responses, you have touched so many on the internet.

Thank you for sharing your life with us all. I will miss you, my friend.

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183 Amanda 01.14.09 at 6:48 pm

Oh, honey. You’re in my prayers.

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184 Morocco 01.14.09 at 7:14 pm

Thinking of you and sending hope, peace, and the love of Jehovah your way! He is with you!

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185 Ann 01.14.09 at 7:43 pm

May you and your family find comfort from your Hospice Angels .

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186 Kay 01.14.09 at 8:26 pm

No words. I do want to thank you so much for sharing your life with us! I have been inspired and humbled by you more times than I can count!

I still believe in miracles though!

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187 Megan 01.14.09 at 9:00 pm

I may have just read one post, but you can tell how many lives you have touched. You will be truly missed.

Enjoy the time that you have with your family.

Love, love, love, love,

Megan Wiesjahn

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188 Dawn 01.14.09 at 9:04 pm

It just sucks. It just does. We all love and care for you so much. We haven’t ever met but I feel like we have. It’s strange – this blog thing. Thank you for letting us into your life, Lisa. Be strong and give it all the fight you have left. Hospice is the right decision. Fuck the pain and fuck cancer!

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189 vodkamom 01.14.09 at 9:15 pm

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. emerson

May this and the next part of your journey be a gentle and peaceful one. Hold your darlings close , as they will surely do with you. I will pray for you all tonight, and for many, many nights.

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190 Maggie 01.14.09 at 9:37 pm

My thoughts, as always, are with you and your family.

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191 Jillian 01.14.09 at 10:09 pm

I also second that hospice care is wonderful. I’ve never commented before, just read along through your struggles. I just wanted you to know that I appreciated it. See, I’m on the other side. I watched my mom die of CANCER the day before my 16th birthday. She didn’t get to make the choice to come home and die, the doctors did that for her. She was home for a total of 3 days before she passed away. I am very happy that you have made the decision that you have so that you will have some time with your children.

A bit of assvice, try not to shelter them from it. I was kind of kept to the sidelines and I regret not being forefront. I also regret all the things that I didn’t ask my mom when I had the chance. I regret that I don’t know all the stories and can’t remember the details. I miss her terribly and wish things were different but I’m also happy that it ended when it did. My mother was strong for many years, having been diagnosed at 14 initially and dying 3 days before her 37th birthday. You’ve fought the best fight you could fight and now it’s time to rest and enjoy your family. Make sure they remember how wonderful of a mother/wife you are, not the evil icky CANCER.

My prayers and thoughts are with you and especially with your girls. I know how hard this will be for them. I hope they find peace. I know I will certainly snuggle my little boy a bit closer tonight. Thank you so much for your words and your inspirations.

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192 DK 01.14.09 at 10:35 pm

Hi Lisa -
I found you by way of Tug; she thought I should visit your blog and she was right – you ARE an amazing woman! I’m so sorry you’ve had such a long $@#% go of it and I wish we’d met sooner. But it looks to me like you have an amazing family and tons of friends. Remember, you are calling the shots, and there is always hope.
I will keep you and your sweet family in my prayers, oh yes I will!
DK

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193 Ms. Changes Pants While Driving 01.14.09 at 11:10 pm

i think i’ve said this before, but i’ll say it again. thank you. thank you for sharing. thank you for fighting. thank you for writing. thank you for resting.

do you still crave ribs? i’m going to make them tomorrow. and i’m going to think of you.

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194 Lisa O 01.15.09 at 12:17 am

Because of YOU I stop to smell the roses
Because of YOU I hug my kids longer each day
Because of YOU I have grown closer to God
Because of YOU my heart is bigger, more open and will ALWAYS hold a very special place for you
Much love my friend and safe journey . . .. .

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195 mrs. flinger 01.15.09 at 12:27 am

Love and wordless hugs. XO

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196 Heather 01.15.09 at 12:57 am

Your strength alone through all this is an inspiration. Thank you for being you.

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197 Sheila 01.15.09 at 1:01 am

You’re an amazing woman. You’ve touched so many lives, including mine.

I wish for your pain to be lifted and your journey forward to be remembered in a positive light for your family.

We all will miss you.

Sleep comfortably.

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198 Heather 01.15.09 at 1:16 am

Came to you from Ms Changes Pants while driving.

I have read your posts and tried to write a comment several times. My thoughts are with you, your family and those that are around you. Hold them close and savour.

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199 Sarah 01.15.09 at 1:50 am

You have touched me as well. You are in our prayers.
The love is around & so the hope.

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200 ccinmotion 01.15.09 at 2:03 am

lisa, i don’t think the post i made this morning made it through the dial up i am using while i am in northern louisana instead of arkanasas~~my thoughts are with you and your family as you go through one the the hardest and easiest times of your life. As one who has chosed to be by the bedside of over 50 family, 2 husbands and uncountable friends as they walked the last walk of this lifetime~~i KNOW where you are coming from. Not because i personal have faced that part of my life, but have been close a few times (a double mast before 40 with the BRAC 1 and II gene, ovaries removed at 48 due to cystes) and many family members, numersous friends and 2 husbands dying of complications of horrid diseases such as end stage kidney disease, AIDS, CHF, diabetic and various forms of cancer~~

i understand what you are going through and have conseled family members through hospice.

i wish i was closer to PA than LA but life has dropped me off in northern Louisana at this time in my life

but i am on twitter a couple times a day and have a new blog about my life after 51

if i can ever offer an ear or a shoulder, just hollar or type

ccin motion(the blogger formerly known as crazy charlene in ar)

i will be happy to DM you my cell phone and other number on twitter

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201 Froggywoogie 01.15.09 at 2:19 am

Hi Lisa,
I have never had the chance to know you but I would like to offer you and your family my thoughts and prayers and some comfort.
Big hugs

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202 Kathy 01.15.09 at 3:02 am

It is time to just rest, and breathe and soak up these moments. Peace be with you.

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203 mo 01.15.09 at 4:19 am

you are loved

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204 Iron Fist 01.15.09 at 4:29 am

I’m glad to have met you, Lisa. I’ll always remember your courage.

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205 partikelfg 01.15.09 at 6:04 am

Our thoughts are with you. I hope your time will be full of love, with your family around and without pain!

partikelfgs last blog post..Müde

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206 Kim 01.15.09 at 7:03 am

May you find peace in knowing what a difference you’ve made in the lives of so many. My heart goes out to you and your family.

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207 Tobi 01.15.09 at 7:59 am

I cannot think of a better place to be than surrounded by the love of family and friends, you deserve comfort. Thank you, for being you and reminding all of us that what is most important is right here, right now.

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208 Zephra 01.15.09 at 8:16 am

Thank you for letting me share the journey with you. May God bless you and your family.

Zephras last blog post..

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209 AndiMAC 01.15.09 at 8:30 am

Lisa, I don’t know you nor have I ever read your blog until this very morning. I came here via another blog friend. I don’t even know what compelled me to do so. I lost my mom 3 years ago and she spent her final days in hospice but it wasn’t a home setting. My dad is a cancer survivor (leukemia) so I can certainly understand what your life has been like. Even before I started reading, the tears started flowing. I just felt like I had to come here and just show you that complete strangers can share a moment of love, understanding, and whatever other emotions may arise. I personally think you have made the best decision to come home and be with your family. Whatever lies ahead for you, I just wish you peace and a feeling of contentment. I can tell just by reading the previous comments you have touched so many people in a positive way. You are definitely loved.

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210 CharmingBitch 01.15.09 at 9:52 am

Hugs&love-to-you-and-yours.

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211 anne 01.15.09 at 10:35 am

Another delurking to say what so many others have said so well: you are so loved, now and always. And I do mean ALWAYS. 139 out of 139 commenters agree, as well as a certain DUDE and the lovely girls. It is impossible to deny your awesomeness.

I’ve also had several friends who have used or been under the care themselves of hospice, and it was a huge, huge blessing, every time. I’m praying you get the most awesome nurse ever.

My love and prayers to you.

annes last blog post..Fellow Orlandonians, I need your help!

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212 Kellyology 01.15.09 at 11:09 am

Am de-lurking to sending love your way and respect for having the strength to make such a hard decision. Thanks for sharing all you have with us. The impact you are leaving…you cannot imagine.

Kellyologys last blog post..They Learned It at Man School: Pretending to Not Listen

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213 ninbroken52 01.15.09 at 11:23 am

home is the place to be.

you’re not alone.

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214 Lance 01.15.09 at 11:26 am

I don’t know you nor your story, but it wouldn’t matter if I did. Enjoy the time you have, the family you love and the life you live, for you will be sadly missed. Trust in God and remember that true life awaits!

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215 nitebyrd 01.15.09 at 11:33 am

I wish you peace.

nitebyrds last blog post..Pimped by Sage

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216 PaintingChef 01.15.09 at 11:33 am

Sending you love and peace and comfort. You have fought bravely and taught us all about courage, grace and love. Thank you for that.

PaintingChefs last blog post..Not quite up to previous profanity standards but not too far off…

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217 Sybil Law 01.15.09 at 11:54 am

xoxoxo

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218 Anna 01.15.09 at 11:55 am

Sending you love through the Interwebs. May your journey be peaceful and filled with Light.

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219 Mental P Mama 01.15.09 at 11:56 am

You and your dear family will not leave my thoughts and prayers.

Mental P Mamas last blog post..Confession Time

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220 Why Mom Drinks Rum 01.15.09 at 12:21 pm

I am so sorry.

There aren’t any words to express it.

Why Mom Drinks Rums last blog post..I need your help. YES YOU!!!

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221 Maureen 01.15.09 at 1:01 pm

We are infinite and timeless spirits in these human bodies of ours that have expiration dates on them. I will continue to pray for your comfort and peace, Lisa.
God Bless You,
Maureen :)

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222 Janice 01.15.09 at 1:50 pm

I have no words Lisa.
My thoughts and love are with you are yours.
xoxoxox

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223 Crescent 01.15.09 at 2:23 pm

I have been reading you quietly, daily for months and worried about you and thought about you and, selfishly, drew strength and perspective from your words and bravery.

Look at how loved you are by strangers and family and friends. That is a really beautiful thing that will live on forever.

A friend of mine lost her mother to breast cancer a few years ago and during her grieving process she had a breakthru one day and she said “I just realized something…..that love that we shared will never EVER go away and that keeps us close at all times even though she is gone physically.”

I wish you all the peace there is. Thank you for sharing your story.

Crescents last blog post..Infamy indeed.

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224 Tracy 01.15.09 at 2:28 pm

Oh Lisa,

Wishing you and your family love and peace, and freedom from suffering.

So sorry.

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225 Pooba~ 01.15.09 at 2:40 pm

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE DOOR

A sick woman turned to her doctor, as she was leaving the room after paying a visit, and said, “Doctor, I am afraid to die. Tell me what lies on the other side.”

Very quietly the doctor said, “I don’t know.”

“You don’t know? You, a Christian man, do not know what is on the other side?”

The doctor was holding the handle of the door. On the other side of the door there came the sound of scratching and whining. As he opened the door a dog sprang into the room and leaped on him with an eager show of gladness.

Turning to the woman, the doctor said, “Did you notice that dog? He had never been in this room before. He did not know what was inside. He knew nothing except that his master was here, and when the door opened, he sprang in without fear.

I know little of what is on the other side of death, but I do know one thing: I know my Master is there, and that is enough. And when the door opens, I shall pass through with no fear, but with gladness.”
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Just know you have done more by your words – than all the stars in the sky…

Go in peace, Lisa – your job is done here~

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226 diva65 01.15.09 at 2:46 pm

Sending love to you and your family. I’m so glad to got to “know” you here. Thank you for allowing me to read your words. It is a blessing I will cherish forever. Thank you Lisa from the bottom of my heart.

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227 Catch 01.15.09 at 2:56 pm

Hi Lisa,

This is the first time I have been here. I came from Tugs blog. I have read through your recent posts and some of your comments. I can see you are a very much loved person. My heart goes out to you and your family. I think you have made the right decision to spend the time with them. I will be praying for you and your family. May God hold all of you in his loving arms.

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228 Julie M. T. 01.15.09 at 3:07 pm

I found your blog thru the blogroll of a friend of mine. I just thought I’d stop by and say good luck, and to congratulate you, for being a mother, a fan, a survivor and a wife, among other things. I’ve only been reading your blog for a day, but thought I must comment and say my piece.

Love always, and carry on, regardless of obstacle.

xx
Julie M. T.

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229 Cricky 01.15.09 at 3:34 pm

I shouldn’t care this much. I shouldn’t feel sadness or heartache for your family. I don’t even know you.

But I do. I know that you’re a mom. A damn good mom who is going to forever be at her family’s forethought. I know that you’re funny, charismatic, sarcastic woman. I know that I’m sitting here thinking about how much cancer sucks. I know I’m sitting here wishing I had met you IRL even if it was only for a few moments.

God Bless You Lisa.

Crickys last blog post..Better Late Than Never

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230 BlondeBlogger 01.15.09 at 4:17 pm

I don’t know what to say, Lisa. My heart is so heavy from reading this. I want you to know that I think you’re an amazing person and you have touched so many lives. You have surrounded all of US with the beauty of who you are. I hope you know, and can feel, all of the love that we now want to return to you. I love you and you will always have a special place in my heart. I pray for nothing but peace, love and comfort to surround you and your family.

BlondeBloggers last blog post..Just Remember I Love You

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231 Moogie 01.15.09 at 5:12 pm

May God bless you and grant you peace. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love your way.

Moogies last blog post..Making better choices

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232 Her Bad Mother 01.15.09 at 5:21 pm

Oh, lady.

Sending love.

Her Bad Mothers last blog post..Little Beaner, Rest In Peace

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233 Miss Ilexa Belladonna 01.15.09 at 6:00 pm

Dear Lisa and family,

Thank you for sharing your life with all of your readers. Thank you for sharing Lisa with us.

I hope that you get to enjoy the time left with each other with lots of love, laughter, sweetness and brightness.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

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234 Greeneyezz 01.15.09 at 6:46 pm

Lisa,
I really don’t know you, though had followed someone’s post to this.
Though we really don’t have any history or know eachother, I did want include my thoughts here and wish you and your family the best.

“I say to people who care for people who are dying, if you really love that person and want to help them, be with them when their end comes close. Sit with them – you don’t even have to talk. You don’t have to do anything but really be there with them.”
~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

And from the out-pouring of people’s wishes and thoughts, throughout this country, they are with you, sitting with you. They’re there for you.

~Greeneyezz

Greeneyezzs last blog post..I always smile..

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235 Aurelia 01.15.09 at 7:28 pm

I’m so sorry that this has happened, but I am glad that you will have hospice to take care of you. So many people I know have found it to be such a good thing in a tough situation.

The internet is with you tonight and always.

Aurelias last blog post..Help

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236 Karen Cardoza 01.15.09 at 7:29 pm

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, Lisa. *hugs*

Karen Cardozas last blog post..jump start your day

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237 Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] 01.15.09 at 8:15 pm

Love and the best of everything to you and your family.

Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing]s last blog post..Wordless 1.14.9: Nommalicious Food

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238 Kathleen 01.15.09 at 8:18 pm

May God (in whatever form you believe Him to be) bless you and yours.

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239 Kimberly 01.15.09 at 8:21 pm

Praying for you sweetie.

Kimberlys last blog post..Are You A Clever Mommy?

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240 julia 01.15.09 at 8:35 pm

i’ve never commented here before, but i wanted to let you know i’ve been reading for a month or so. what a messed up choice to have to make. i lost my mom to cancer a few years ago, after a long and valiant battle. she too had hospice care, and i know all the people who cared for her at the end made it easier for all of us, but most of all her.

do not hesitate to call them, no matter what time it might be. make sure DUDE understands this as well. i remember having to call them out 3 and 4 times a day to adjust her pain meds.

i don’t know you, and i haven’t been reading all that long, but i am incredibly proud of you and the fight you’ve waged. but i also understand that a time comes when fighting is no longer possible, and i hope you feel all the love and comfort that all these people above me (and below me too, i’m sure) are sending your way.

julias last blog post..i hate packing

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241 Gina 01.15.09 at 8:39 pm

May you and your family be surrounded by the support you need, given the space you seek, and find peace during the pain.

My father died of liver cancer and in the end it was the time in hospice care that finally allowed him to find some peace. I pray you find peace too.

Ginas last blog post..Tuesday Tee

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242 anon 01.15.09 at 9:48 pm

I’m sorry you have to go through this. I hope a miracle comes through. I pray you find some peace in this.

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243 Been there, Done that 01.15.09 at 9:58 pm

Such a woman as you….I can only hope to be. You are an inspiration.

Been there, Done thats last blog post..Old People Dating

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244 Elle 01.15.09 at 10:36 pm

You make me want to be a better person.

Hug those babies. Smell their necks. Kiss DUDE.

You are the epitome of strength.

Elles last blog post..When I Said “Anal, please” This Is NOT What I Had In Mind or That Princess is FUNNAY When She Emails Me After American Idol ROFLLOLOLLULZ…ha…a ha…ha. Whichever.

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245 Kentucky Girl 01.15.09 at 11:26 pm

I read this and I just can’t seem to breathe now.

Know that even though I’m not “around the internets” much anymore that I do still love and pray for you and your little girls.

You know your own heart and what is best for you and even though *I* want to be selfish, I know that is wrong of me.

Lots of lip gloss kisses and princess wand swirls to you.

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246 Turnbaby 01.16.09 at 12:10 am

We hope and pray that you are enjoying some rest and peace.

Turnbabys last blog post..Shiny Things

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247 Anissa@hope4peyton 01.16.09 at 1:36 am

Lisa, I’ve known too many who’ve had to make this decision on behalf of their child and I hope you find a peace in being with your family and surrounded by their love. But I will be praying that the memories you make now are beautiful ones.

Anissa@hope4peytons last blog post..Should I cut her ear off NOW?

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248 kapgar 01.16.09 at 8:05 am

While I am incredibly saddened by this horrible downhill momentum, I’m glad you made the decision to go through it on your own terms, with your family nearby and not in a hospital. I would like to think that if I were in the same situation, I would make the same decision. You are a brave woman and one I admire greatly.

kapgars last blog post..Stand up, stand up…

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249 Tracy 01.16.09 at 12:38 pm

Lisa — you know I love you girl… I have cried many tears for you and your gorgeous family… I applaud your efforts, your strength, your ability to do what is right for you and your family. Your girls will be such strong women because of you and the values you have instilled in them.

Please know that I am thinking about you and I love you.

Tracys last blog post..So yeah…

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250 Momo Fali 01.16.09 at 1:20 pm

This is my first time here. I just wanted to tell you that I will pray for you and your family.

Momo Falis last blog post..Uh, That’s Not a Bug

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251 Gordon 01.16.09 at 6:08 pm

Added you to my prayers, I know what your family is going through as I’ve been through it with both parents, they got it early and it cleared away in my mum, my dad wasn’t so lucky, was too late, I can’t write anymore, i can’t really see the screen it’s still slightly raw.
Moogie sent me this way.
May god give you the strength required and if not take some of mine I give it freely for I am like the earth, strong yet gentle and caring..

Gordons last blog post..Happy New Year 2009

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252 Shannon 01.16.09 at 6:09 pm

I wish I had wise, wonderful words… I don’t. You and your family are in my thoughts. I wish you peace and as many, many more moments with your family.

Shan

Shannons last blog post..That glow-mom feeling!

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253 Dana 01.16.09 at 11:12 pm

Lisa, I don’t know if I’ve ever commented on your blog before, and I’m mad at myself for that, because so often I’ve read and wanted to say something, anything; I never could find the right words.
My SIL is a hospice nurse and I asked her many times what I should say….or do… But…. Tonight…after reading this post, I’ve realized there are no “right” words. There is only love. Tears and love.

I can hardly type.

I’m praying for you and keeping you in my thoughts.

May your time on this Earth be as wonderful as possible. God be with you, until we meet again in Heaven.

Danas last blog post..Hope

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254 that girl 01.20.09 at 1:25 am

i am like dana above … i stopped in … read … cried … and never knew what to say

you and your family are in my thoughts

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255 The Other Elle 01.20.09 at 8:25 pm

Lisa, I’m so sorry. You and your family remain in my prayers and thoughts and love. Wish I could DO something for you. My heart is bursting out of my body with the desire to help, somehow.

Love, my dear. Much love from all of us in the blogosphere.

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256 Shawna 01.20.09 at 11:59 pm

You are so beautiful in your strength. May your days be filled with comfort, dignity and love. The world is better for knowing you.

Shawnas last blog post..Here’s a grand idea

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257 Carrie 01.24.09 at 5:36 pm

As you can see, you are not alone.

Carries last blog post..The Curious Case of Staying Up Til 3AM

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