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Thank You

by Secondhand Karl on March 11, 2009

in Cam, Cancer Sucks, Dude, Kidz, Teenie

I want to thank everyone again for all of the support, sympathy, donations and the food that we are receiving. Cameron, Christine and I are extremely grateful.
– Dude aka John

And we had 77 people at Lisa’s virtual memorial on Saturday. Glad that lots of you were there.


Lisa, Dude, and the Girls

I know many of us cannot make it to Lisa’s funeral on Saturday. I’ve been reading loads of comments and emails from people who wish they could go. I thought a virtual memorial service might be the way to go for many of us.

I hope you’ll join us this Saturday afternoon at 4:00 PM Eastern, 1:00  PM Pacific, for a special show dedicated to sharing stories about Lisa. It’s a talk show at, where you can come, join in the chatroom action, call in to the show and talk about Lisa, and listen to many of Lisa’s friends do the same.

We’ll also raise more donations for Lisa’s family during the show.

If you’re not familiar with Talkshoe, go register now. It’s a fast sign-up that’ll make things much easier for you to join the show Saturday afternoon.

I’ve scheduled for two hours, though we’ll run as long as we need to.

Showtime: 4:00 PM Eastern, Saturday, March 7

Link for the show

Call in number: 724-444-7444

Please spread the word. I hope to see you there.

EDIT: Thanks to @cheekysweetie for pointing me in this direction…you can now have meals delivered to Lisa’s family through Make & Take Gourmet, which is in their local area.

Call 610-376-2006, ask for Kimberly. Tell them you’d like to have a meal delivered to Lisa Kelly’s house. Meals with 1 entree and 2 sides start at $25. They have Lisa’s address, you just have to mention what day you’d like the meal delivered. I scheduled a delivery for Friday and I know John and the girls can use all the home-cooked meals they can get.



by Secondhand Karl on March 3, 2009

in Cancer Sucks

Thanks to Jessica for pointing this out to me, just before I received John’s email. Lisa’s obituary is online in one of the local newspaper sites.

EDIT: From John (Dude) via email:

Karl, I am sending the link to Lisa’s obituary that appeared in today’s paper. I’d also like to send out a special thank you to everyone that has donated and for all of the kind words that I’ve been reading, not only on Clusterfook, but on blogs all across the country. It brings a smile to our faces when we see how many lives that Lisa has touched and the huge impact she has made on other cancer patients as well.

Here is the obituary. There’s also a guestbook you can sign at the above obituary site.

Lisa A. (Gift) Kelly

Lisa A. (Gift) Kelly, 42, passed away of natural causes Feb. 27, 2009, in her residence.

She was the wife of John.

Born in Meadowbrook, she was a daughter of Harrison William Gift III, Fort Washington, and Dolores (Dorsey) Krasnoff, Exeter Township.

She was a wife and mother.

She was a member of Immaculate Conception Roman Catholic Church, Douglassville.

She was a volunteer with the American Cancer Society. She was a graduate of DeVry University, Fort Washington.,

Surviving in addition to her father and mother are two daughters, Cameron and Christine, both at home.

Other survivors include her paternal grandmother, Florence (Thomas) Gift, Lower Gwynedd; her stepmother, Dolores M. (Wilson) Gift, Fort Washington; and her stepfather, Arthur S. Krasnoff, Exeter Township.

There is also her sister, Danielle M. Gift, Blacksburg, Va.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Saturday at 1 p.m. in Immaculate Conception RC Church, 905 Chestnut St., Douglassville. There will be no viewing. Burial will be in Immaculate Conception Church Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society, Berks Unit, 498 Bellevue Ave., Reading, PA 19605. Dengler Funeral Home Inc., 144 N. Spruce St., Birdsboro, is in charge of arrangements.


Hey gang. Just got off the phone with Dude and he’s feeling brain dead and like he’s on autopilot. Understandable.

Here are the funeral arrangements for Lisa for those that wish to go or send flowers.

Lisa Gift Kelly

Saturday, March 7th

1:00 PM

Immaculate Conception church, 905 Chestnut St, Douglasville, PA


Right, thanks to all of you that have emailed me and left comments requesting a way to donate to Lisa’s family. There are a couple of ways to go about this:

Use the Donation Button on Lisa’s Donations page. I’ve changed the Paypal address over to her husband’s address so he has access to the account.

Flowers are wonderful, of course, but for those that want to donate to causes close to Lisa’s heart, perhaps you’d care to view the list of organizations on her Ovarian Cancer page. A donation in her name would be great.

I hope this gives you a couple of options for those of you that want to do something more. John appreciates all the kind words and support. He says the girls are doing well.


Just got the call from Dude. Lisa died about 45 minutes ago, at around 11:30 PM Friday night. He’s frazzled, but is thankful she’s not in pain any more.

RIP, Lisa. You’re missed already.



A lot of you are asking how you can help Lisa’s family and the short answer, for the time being, is I don’t know. I’m working on it. There’s a Donations page on Lisa’s blog, but after talking with the Dude on the phone, he doesn’t have access to that Paypal account, and he’s not sure if Lisa left him any notes about the account or not.

So for now, please don’t use the Donations page because I don’t know if Dude will have access to the money.

I think we’ll strive to get a new Paypal account in the near future for those that wish to help financially. Right now, Dude is really sick with a stomach virus, so the last thing he wants to do is set up bank routing information with Paypal.

Be patient and we’ll figure something out. He sounds like he’s in agony, Dude, and says he thinks Lisa is actually doing better off than he is at the moment.

For now, lots of prayers and good wishes are plenty.


Hey, Karl here.

After a couple of voicemails left for Lisa and not hearing back, which is unusual for her, I called the Dude a little bit ago and found out the reason. She’s not going to be returning phone calls any more, nor emails. No more Tweets from her.

She’s in the final, final stages now, people. So out of her mind with pain and drugs that she often doesn’t even recognize her husband or children. Dude says it’ll be “lucky” if she makes it through the weekend, though he also says it’ll be luckier if God takes her away sooner. She’s that bad.

I’d been riding her to get a “last post” done, but it doesn’t look like that happened. There’s a fragment of a post she was working on, which I’ll post here soon, but there won’t be any more posts from Lisa beyond that.

Those of you that live locally to Lisa and her fam, I know Dude and the kids would appreciate any meals brought over, since the last thing on Dude’s mind is cooking dinner right now. Everything is on hold now, just waiting for the final moment, and Dude is doing everything he can just to keep it together.

He says that the kids are taking it much better than he is.

My heart is just breaking. From here on out, I won’t be posting updates about Lisa on my blog…I’ll keep you posted here, of course. I’ve been getting an inordinate amount of traffic and email from you folks hoping to hear news. I answer it all, but it may not be instantaneous.

If you’re of the praying sort, pray that Lisa doesn’t suffer much more. Pray for her family.